Addicts and alcholics usually have several common traits and one of those is lust. What do I mean by that? I mean that we are always lusting after or craving the better high and the longer buzz. Like non-alcoholics we also seek money and the outward trappings of wealth - the faster car, the bigger house, the better office. We may get caught up in seeking more attention from the opposite sex or finding gratification through pornography. All of these are symptoms of the same thing - selfishness. We seek those things that make us feel better, many times ignoring the costs to our co-workers, friends and family.
The Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous, never talks about how to not drink. It leads us from Step One through Step Twelve into being better human beings. It teaches us that our happiness will not be found in drink, drugs, wealth, pornography or anything else outside of ourselves. Happiness and peace are found when we humble ourselves, admit we need help and let God help us. It's an inside job.
People reading this blog know me pretty well and will probably laugh at the thought of me trying to be humble and I must admit it's something I struggle with. I can't say that humility is something I'm working on, because I know that I cannot remove my own character defects. If I try to remove my own character defects, it remains all about me - I'M going to fix MY defects by MYSELF. It can't happen. What I have to do, and I believe we all have to do is found in Step Seven - ask God to remove them for us. When we ask God to remove our defects it becomes about Him and His Power.